We've heard the term 'two old marrieds' before. Most of us 'younger
marrieds' harbor dreams of getting to that point. Some of us find it
unappealing and unexciting. After all, what would you always prefer? A
marriage as comfy as an old sock or the one hyped up in romantic novels
and comedies?
Interestingly, it does take years of
passion, love and intimacy to get to the point where a couple is so
comfortable with each other that they finish each other's sentences and
depend on each other. Want to know a secret? Studies say that couples
like these have an even better sex life in their marital futures than
the ones with all the passion at the start then burn out later on.
Why?
Because these savvy couples don't let up on keeping the intimacy,
passion and spice in their marriages. They've built it up through the
years to what we can call as a marriage 'art form'.
How can you learn these spicy tips to keep the love in your marriage? Here's some of them!
1. Prioritize each other.
This
is the mother of all tips. Successful old marrieds have come to realize
that above all relationships each one has in their lives ' even kids,
own parents, siblings, co-workers, best buds ' a couple has to
prioritize their marriage.
Why? Ultimately, it will be
just the two of you going through life together and you made the
promise to do so. People fail to realize that your spouse is your first
and foremost priority! They allow their marriages to get caught in
between squabbling kids, family politics and even work obligations. Big
no-no.
Your spouse has to know that he or she can
trust on you to do what's best for the relationship and vice versa, that
he or she is your best friend and will never let you down. When you
work as a team, you face the obligations you have towards others as a
team.
2. Don't give up dating... Each other!
The
humdrum of life, kids and laundry can take a way time for each other.
Don't allow it! If you're the spontaneous type, rethink your
understanding because you really do have to set a date to date your
spouse ' and keep it regular!
You can even take turns
planning surprise dates. They don't have to be grand, they just have to
be time off to feed number one above. And, don't forget, they same way
you are creative in dating your spouse, learn to be creative in the
bedroom!
3. Fight fair, laugh always.
You
might think the elements in this tip are not related but they
absolutely are! It's all a matter of attitude. How do you see fighting
or arguing in your relationship? How do you see humor? If you can inject
both with a positive approach always, then you realize that it all
comes from the inside.
Learn how to fight
constructively with the correct communication tools. And don't take
fighting too seriously. Laugh with your spouse at your annoying little
fights. See them both as essential to your marriage.
4. Talk, discuss, agree to disagree!
As
a couple, it's better if you share a majority of your beliefs and
perspectives about life. But, even if you don't, talking, discussing and
bantering are important in keeping the spice in your marriage. You can
even agree to disagree and that's that! The more you talk, the more you
get to know what your spouse is thinking and feeling. The more you get
to know the real person behind the words. The more opportunities you
find that you still surprise each other after all!
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